The New Topping Book

Top, bottom, sadomasochism, mistress, master, slaves, and owners. Does all of this sound like something out of a bad erotic romance novel? Are you having visions of a leather-clad Dominatrix whipping prostrate executives into a frenzy?

Well, you are not alone. However, according to Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, the authors of “The New Topping Book,” being a top (the person who takes control in sexual situations) is about much more than the stereotypical image of the whip-wielding master or mistress, although that is part of the fun too. The book is a basic how-to manual for tops and dominants who want to have a better understanding of the physical basics, psychology, and responsibilities of being a top. It covers everything including why someone would want to top, empathy for the bottom (the other half in this sexual scenario), the ethics of BDSM (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadomasochism), and all the fun toys from ropes to floggers.

They even include The Top”s Bill of Rights and The Top”s List of Responsibilities to ensure that the top has his/her needs met and understands the inherent responsibility of accepting control of an S&M scene. Also included are short introductions to living this lifestyle full-time as well the spiritual nature of sexuality and how this can be utilized through sadomasochism The authors are not just writing from intellect alone, they write from many years of personal experience in the S&M scene. Ms. Hardy is a writer and sex educator and Ms. Easton has many years of marriage and family counseling experience to her credit. They have lived this life and know the ups and downs.

Their thoughtful and witty way of expressing themselves make this book a joy to read. Both their reader-friendly writing style and the many titillating ideas they give for scenes involving S&M make this book a must have for that special kinky section on your bookshelf